Comments on: Resolution #1: An Easy Life

By: Eric Mayer

Eric Mayer — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 17:49:56 +0000

Alas, my whole adult life has been one disaster after another. Nothing has ever been easy and I am basically an unambitious person who would prefer to just read books and write rather than struggle for success let alone struggle to just survive. At my age I can see it is never going to be “easier.” Now I’m aiming for “easier.”

But hoping for an “easy” life can be a snare. I know a couple who set that as a goal — having all the ducks in a row — but then, when the son was off to college, suddenly an elderly relative became infirm and had to come to live with them so they still had a family member to be responsible for. Then a change of management made the husband’s job insecure and less pleasant. And they feel aggrieved. Yet, he has a job, they own their home. They are far better off than most, but the perfectly easy life they envision eludes them. I don’t think you can make ducks stay in a row unless they’re dead.

By: Bernita

Bernita — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 10:11:59 +0000

“so a rough life actually makes you more and more passive, over time.”
I think that’s true to a point. Hardship can make a person more timid, because one becomes more acutely aware of unpleasant consequences.

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 03:02:45 +0000

Awww, thank you, Barrie! And the Kindle rocks. The only “possession” I’ve ever loved, and I hate things!

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 03:01:41 +0000

Lauren, I hear you. I don’t think my friend has had an easy life, not at all, just… well, she’s very blessed now. She just has a life I’d love to have, now, mostly. With my own personal variations, of course, LOL.

I wouldn’t at all compare, though. It’s like pain. The worst pain someone has ever felt is the worst pain someone has ever felt, and thus equal, even if a scientist were able to declare one a “2.5″ pain and one a “9.3″ pain.

It’s the human condition to struggle, I think.

And I think your life is super cool, Lauren!

By: Barrie Summy

Barrie Summy — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 02:12:00 +0000

Natasha, I think if you’re questioning your life this way, you’re well on the road to figuring it out. And that’s probably as cushy as it gets! I’m sending you wishes for a happy, healthy, and drama-free 2010. xo p.s. When I get to the point of buying a kindle, I will consult with you first!

By: Lauren

Lauren — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 01:53:37 +0000

I think that people who seem like things are going well don’t always feel like it is. I mean, it sounds like there’s a lot more of “there’s always something” for you, especially with the being sick and Glenn being gone for so long at a stretch.

I’ve been “accused” of being one of those people with an easy life, but I’ve had and still do have my own blocks. I just hide them easier and they are different sorts of issues. I’m sure your friend you were referring to has many as well. We all do, but yes, some more than others.

Then again, have you ever heard of an artistic person with a super cushy life? That sort of stuff doesn’t lead for any material. I just know that you will channel everything and create an amazing best seller! Also, think of how all those things have molded you into who you are with the ability to live on the road in an RV, which I think is *super* cool

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 19:56:52 +0000

LOL, Robin! Oh no, I will take all the creature comforts in the world. Although, we might have different views of what those creature comforts are, LOL. (Shoes and lotions, no. Tons of books on my Kindle and comfy bed, yes. )

By: Robin Altman

Robin Altman — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 18:57:27 +0000

Happy New Year, Natasha!! I will cross my fingers and toes and wish for an easy peasy year for you.

I think you’d love an updated camper on the road. You could keep having adventures and writing, but maybe have a little more of the old creature comforts. Or maybe I’m projecting my own need for creature comforts onto you. Hmmmm…

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 18:05:03 +0000

Me too, Anon. Especially the passive part. I was just reading that stress activates something in the brain, so a rough life actually makes you more and more passive, over time.

Isn’t that annoying? That sounds supremely unfair. I’m trying to battle it.

*hugs*

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 18:03:15 +0000

LOL, Edie, you are so amazing at being a cheerleader! If I can ever be as good as you at being you, I’ll die feeling a success.