Comments on: Pain and Relativity http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/ Adventures in Writing on the Road Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:01:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Natasha Fondren http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2380 Natasha Fondren Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:51:35 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2380 I'm sorry, LOL... I didn't mean to make such a big deal out of talking about you, LOL. It's just I phrased it wrong yesterday, and had to fix it, and then... Well, anyway! No, I don't get sick of hearing you say that. I think everyone should say that more. I'm not convinced, as a whole, we're making things better for the next generation, and I feel it's our duty. I hope so! And I've been holding your wish for me from the Resolution post in my heart! Your lips to God's ear. I want some of that Butter Toffee stuff you used to talk about! :-) I’m sorry, LOL… I didn’t mean to make such a big deal out of talking about you, LOL. It’s just I phrased it wrong yesterday, and had to fix it, and then…

Well, anyway! No, I don’t get sick of hearing you say that. I think everyone should say that more. I’m not convinced, as a whole, we’re making things better for the next generation, and I feel it’s our duty.

I hope so! And I’ve been holding your wish for me from the Resolution post in my heart! Your lips to God’s ear.

I want some of that Butter Toffee stuff you used to talk about! :-)

]]> By: Natasha Fondren http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2379 Natasha Fondren Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:48:02 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2379 *cringing* I have this faint memory of a discussion I had with my husband about his two-hamburgers a day habit, LOL... No, that couldn't have been me. ;-) Exactly! Exactly! About the memory. It's an abstract memory. That's it! Like, with sorrow, you can remember it and you'll cry again... but with physical pain, you remember it but it won't make you cry again. *cringing* I have this faint memory of a discussion I had with my husband about his two-hamburgers a day habit, LOL…

No, that couldn’t have been me. ;-)

Exactly! Exactly! About the memory. It’s an abstract memory. That’s it! Like, with sorrow, you can remember it and you’ll cry again… but with physical pain, you remember it but it won’t make you cry again.

]]> By: Natasha Fondren http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2378 Natasha Fondren Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:46:19 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2378 I hear you, Jill! That's so true. And even if someone went through exactly the same thing, it's not the same, because our sensitive buttons are different, you know? I hear you, Jill! That’s so true. And even if someone went through exactly the same thing, it’s not the same, because our sensitive buttons are different, you know?

]]> By: Natasha Fondren http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2377 Natasha Fondren Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:45:28 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2377 Ouch, Charles! That sure is the truth. Physical pain fades. I mean, it may stick around, but when it's done, it's done. The inner wounds never seem to heal. Ouch, Charles! That sure is the truth. Physical pain fades. I mean, it may stick around, but when it’s done, it’s done. The inner wounds never seem to heal.

]]> By: Natasha Fondren http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2376 Natasha Fondren Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:44:24 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2376 That's such a great point. It's true! I know yesterday, me missing Glenn was the most important thing in the world and I didn't care about anything else, LOL! Man, seriously? I think people have short and revised memories. And they think the joy an adult playing with kids feels, is how kids feel all the time. That’s such a great point. It’s true! I know yesterday, me missing Glenn was the most important thing in the world and I didn’t care about anything else, LOL!

Man, seriously? I think people have short and revised memories. And they think the joy an adult playing with kids feels, is how kids feel all the time.

]]> By: Natasha Fondren http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2375 Natasha Fondren Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:42:13 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2375 LOL, Edie, I have no problem with false happiness. You should see me pop St. John's Wort when he leaves. But yeah. And you're right about the set point; there've been studies that we all sort of have one. It's comforting, you know? That even if today is horrible, we'll get back to our set point, soon enough. LOL, Edie, I have no problem with false happiness. You should see me pop St. John’s Wort when he leaves. But yeah.

And you’re right about the set point; there’ve been studies that we all sort of have one. It’s comforting, you know? That even if today is horrible, we’ll get back to our set point, soon enough.

]]> By: Natasha Fondren http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2374 Natasha Fondren Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:40:33 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2374 Really? Oh man, that's annoying! Sheesh. No, you're not rambling, that's a great point. I hear you about judging. I'm so sick of judging. It's everywhere. Oh heck, listen to me. I'm judging those who judge! Really? Oh man, that’s annoying! Sheesh. No, you’re not rambling, that’s a great point.

I hear you about judging. I’m so sick of judging. It’s everywhere. Oh heck, listen to me. I’m judging those who judge!

]]> By: Natasha Fondren http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2373 Natasha Fondren Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:38:58 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2373 Oh yes, this is true. Good point, Bevie. We do seem to have a too-invested interest in trying to fix other people, LOL! Oh yes, this is true. Good point, Bevie. We do seem to have a too-invested interest in trying to fix other people, LOL!

]]> By: mom2brie http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2372 mom2brie Sun, 03 Jan 2010 04:10:26 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2372 Hmmm, I'm not really sure how to respond to this. But, I know I'm NOT going to write my story - I could never write as eloquently as you :-) So, I'll say this - I agree with you. My life has not always been easy, but I've been incredibly blessed. I try not to worry about the fact that I've been so blessed, and how that may or may not impact my soul's future life. And I completely agree that some times, some people just have hard lives, no matter what they do. And horrifyingly, some people have terrifying lives, and that breaks my heart. My only consolation is that my main goal in life is to each day make the world a little bit better place - and to teach Brie to do the same. (Man, how many times have you heard me say this, sorry, lol). But it helps me to deal with all of the horrifying things that happen to know that at least I'm trying to make things a little bit better in the limited way that I can. Enough about me :-) You have had a life-altering year. You have made changes, you have been in control of what you can be in control of, you have been responsible for improving your life. I personally think that you are doing what you need to do in order to have an "easier" life. I hope that you will achieve your 2010 goal. I admire and respect all that you do. I would recommend one thing - more caramel lattes - caramel lattes make everything seem better - ah damn! you can't have dairy! - ah well, yet another challenge for you ... (I hope that pathetic attempt for a joke actually worked and made you smile :-) I love you!) Hmmm, I’m not really sure how to respond to this. But, I know I’m NOT going to write my story – I could never write as eloquently as you :-) So, I’ll say this – I agree with you. My life has not always been easy, but I’ve been incredibly blessed. I try not to worry about the fact that I’ve been so blessed, and how that may or may not impact my soul’s future life. And I completely agree that some times, some people just have hard lives, no matter what they do. And horrifyingly, some people have terrifying lives, and that breaks my heart. My only consolation is that my main goal in life is to each day make the world a little bit better place – and to teach Brie to do the same. (Man, how many times have you heard me say this, sorry, lol). But it helps me to deal with all of the horrifying things that happen to know that at least I’m trying to make things a little bit better in the limited way that I can. Enough about me :-)

You have had a life-altering year. You have made changes, you have been in control of what you can be in control of, you have been responsible for improving your life. I personally think that you are doing what you need to do in order to have an “easier” life. I hope that you will achieve your 2010 goal. I admire and respect all that you do.

I would recommend one thing – more caramel lattes – caramel lattes make everything seem better – ah damn! you can’t have dairy! – ah well, yet another challenge for you … (I hope that pathetic attempt for a joke actually worked and made you smile :-) I love you!)

]]> By: Eric Mayer http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/comment-page-1/#comment-2371 Eric Mayer Sat, 02 Jan 2010 17:51:07 +0000 http://www.natashafondren.com/writing/musings/pain-and-relativity/#comment-2371 Can't add much to this. I wish people would stop trying to blame other people's illnesses on something they did --ate too much, smoked, didn't exercise, didn't take enough vitamins. As if we'll live forever as long as we do the right things. Pain is weird. I don't think we can truly imagine pain. We can only experience but when we aren't experiencing it we can remember, abstractly, that it was distressing but we can't realy duplicate any of the senation n our memory. But maybe that's just me. Can’t add much to this. I wish people would stop trying to blame other people’s illnesses on something they did –ate too much, smoked, didn’t exercise, didn’t take enough vitamins. As if we’ll live forever as long as we do the right things.

Pain is weird. I don’t think we can truly imagine pain. We can only experience but when we aren’t experiencing it we can remember, abstractly, that it was distressing but we can’t realy duplicate any of the senation n our memory. But maybe that’s just me.

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