Comments on: It’s Not Normal.

By: Caryn

Caryn — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 17:28:19 +0000

Best thing I’ve read about Prop 8, hands down. I loved how you started off with that joyous moment, and then turned it on its head by showing that joy was the result of denying so many other people their happiness. Oh, and like you I give people a back story all the time, especially when I can’t find an obvious cause for their actions (or reactions).

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:12:10 +0000

I get it, Lisa. I might not be gay, but I am kinky, and I couldn’t turn it “off” in a million years. It just is. It will never “go away,” LOL.

And man, I really wish I’d gotten the “wealthy, perfectly fit and healthy” mate!

By: Lisa Nevin

Lisa Nevin — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 12:32:45 +0000

A very thoughtful post. Well written and makes a point and kind way.
My daughter, who is gay, is often separated from her girlfriend on holidays. Although she is welcome to bring her girlfriend to my house, I’m a good 10-12 hour drive away – so she’s only done that once.
I find it most frustrating the number of people who think she ‘chose to be gay’! I explain that if we could all so easily choose who we fell in love with, we’d all be married, to sweet, considerate, wealthy, perfectly fit and healthy mates!

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 23:42:43 +0000

You’re right! Now I remember thinking it was Glenn’s birth state.

By: Joey Radu

Joey Radu — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:46:43 +0000

I think he was a Louisiana justice of the peace.

Just sayin’.

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 21:06:06 +0000

Thanks, Darcy!

I have the same feeling about the word. And you’re right… but did you know that just last week (or so) a judge in North Carolina refused to marry an interracial couple out of concern for the children?

I feel like we are doing a huge seven steps backward or something!

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 19:48:15 +0000

I’m happy with respectful conversation. We have to listen to each other if we’re to build a bridge.

Why do you have a problem with the word “marriage”?

My niece isn’t my niece, but she calls me “aunt.” If a person builds a building in a tree and calls it their “house,” does that bother you?

We’re so unprotective of so many words in our language. Why does this one word need to be protected for you? What’s at the root of that? I really want to know.

Sarah, I guess I would support a compromise IF all legal “marriages” were civil unions, EVEN those between a man and a woman. (That might have been what you meant, LOL, I just wasn’t sure.

I don’t think separate but equal is equal–history has proven the opposite.

I could live with the whole “civil union” thing, in that case, but I don’t prefer it. It would be the government kowtowing to religion, and I am very afraid of giving religion any more political power. I don’t know, though.

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 19:40:23 +0000

It sure is, Katie.

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 19:40:01 +0000

Thanks, Reenie!

By: Natasha Fondren

Natasha Fondren — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 19:39:47 +0000

Merry, I’ve known good people in my life who have “bad” beliefs or do “bad” things. I lapse into judging them, but I think I have to keep understanding them if we’re to build any sort of bridge.